Looking for your soulmate and life partner?

H. Jackson Brown in his book, "Life's Little Instruction Book," says "Choose your life's mate carefully. From this one decision will come ninety percent of all your happiness or misery."

Yet, virtually everyone, certainly those "walking down the aisle," believe they have the skills to attract the best mate for them and that they also have the skills necessary to nurture and sustain that relationship once found.

But hard research reveals that some 50% of first marriages and some 63% of second marriages end in divorce. A huge percentage of those who remain together lead paralel lives often of quiet (or not so quiet) desperation. This fact have led some to argue that the actual rate of failure in marriage is closer to 95%. The fact is that the vast majority of singles don't have the knowledge to sustain a romantic relationship for a lifetime. Psychological research in recent years has revealed proven strategies that do lead to deepening joy, passion, safety and love in romantic relationships. What's even more exciting is that these skills are very learnable.

If you've moved beyond thinking that writing a better internet profile or getting advice from well meaning friends and relatives is your best preparation to attract  your soulmate, you may be ready for a program based on cutting edge social science research. Come learn the skills to avoid being part of those "romance horror statistics."

The process led by Dr. Becker includes a structured curriculum with homework assignments which invite self reflection and a review of past relationship patterns. It helps you discover the vision of the life you'd love to live and helps you articulate the requirements that must be met in your life partnership for it to succeed long term. Most importantly, the process includes developing the know how and skills to both attract and then nurture your romantic soulmate relationship so that it will continue to be respectful, joyous and passionate.

While all of this can be accomplished in the context of individual singles psychotherapy, often it is more powerful and cost effective to do some or much of this work in the context of group psychotherapy.

The following are some thoughts about group therapy.

Group psychotherapy offers the  profound healing power of a group of individuals committed to your growing well being. 

Dr. Becker's approach to group therapy stresses the creation of an emotionally safe environment in which individuals can risk sharing more of themselves and risk new ways of being and relating to others.

Simply to be truly heard and deeply understood by others is affirming and healing. We need respecful witnesses to our experiences and to our lives to become our whole selves.

Effective group therapy provides that and much more. For much more information on the benefits to be derived and the skills that can be mastered in group therapy, see the description on the "Solo" Couples Therapy page.

All potential participants in group therapy are seen initially in individual therapy so that Dr. Becker can both understand the individual's unique goals and to orient the person on how to best benefit from the group.